Have you ever hit rock bottom in life you almost cannot get yourself out of bed?
Well, I've been through that phase several times in the past I want to share with you how I got over it and how changing your perspective can change your life.
First of all, why change your perspective?
To make it simple, change your perspective will make your life easier and set yourself free.
A lot of time we feel stuck in life and don’t know what to do. We feel hopeless, depressed, insecure and we don’t see any hope.
Why does that happen?
Mostly, it’s because we only see occurrences, events, or people in one perspective.
When you see things only in one perspective, you often jump to conclusion and decide right away that the situation is good or bad for you, when in reality, if let the dust settle and learn to distance yourself, you can usually learn much more than what it appears to be.
Let me give you an example.
A while back when I was still living in Chiang Mai, for the first 3 months I was living in a condo that is in no shape or form that is convenient for me.
There was no proper kitchen, the location was not ideal, the price is not worth the value, and the worst of all, it’s noisy, I can’t sleep well.
It was my first time living Chiang Mai and there are many things I am not aware of. You probably have a similar experience when you didn’t research enough about a new place.
Now, facing this great inconvenience, I have different reactions to choose from.
A. I could complain all day long and blame everything.
B. I could blame the agent and demand a refund.
C. I could try to find someone to take over my lease.
D. I could accept what is given to me and make the most out of it.
As for me, I chose option C and D.
There’s no point in wasting energy to blame or complain, I am responsible for my own choices and things are not as bad as it seems:)
There are plenty of crappy moments in the past, I can live through this and make the most out of what I have.
And it’s kind of funny now that I think about all those time I’m either walking or riding my bicycle to get food because you’ll see this petite Asian woman trying to haul back a whole bunch of fruits and vegetable in a bicycle. (I don’t have a scooter)
Time flies and those adventurous moments became my travel memory.
From all this, I learned about myself, my standards, and my priorities.
I also learn how to handle things and work around the inconvenience.
Although it was not an ideal experience, I try to change the situation but when I can’t, I try to make the most out of it.
As I did by doing some pool photo shoots and got a new client:
So when it comes occurrences that happen to you, I encourage you to ask yourself:
How can I change things around?
Is there something I can modify?
What can be negotiated?
What other methods or options is there?
What are some other ways to look at this situation?
How can I make the most out of this?
Most importantly, learn to look at things in a more positive perspective because that changes everything.
Things may seem painful at the moment but down the road, you usually become so grateful that that event has led you to where you are today.
I have overcome many obstacles and I am very grateful to be where I am. Everyday is never the same and the moments will never come back.
Be present and embrace with what you have.
Remember, things and events occur as is, it’s really up to us to decide whether it’s good or bad for us. Other people also have their own perspective that may or may not agree with you, and that’s okay because everyone is different.
Often, the most painful experience gave us the most valuable lesson.
Honor yourself and give yourself some time to process it. You can thrive through this.
Focus on yourself, learn from experience, and try to make the most out of every moment.
We have very little control in a lot of things, events and people around us, but through practicing resilience through every occurrence that comes in our path, we can choose how we react towards those exterior factors.
One great book I highly recommend you to read that talks extensively on how to change your perspective is the book:
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
This book is filled with great examples on the potentials of the growth mindset as opposed to a fixed mindset.
By shifting your perspective, you are giving yourself opportunities to change and learn instead of clinging onto things that don't work in your favor.
You hold the power to control your mind.
By letting go that expectations, disappointment, or regret on the exterior factors, you can choose to live happy and carefree.
Love yourself, create your own destiny, and live fully.
I wish you live freedom life, in style.
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